Backstage Pass to Trauma Care | Stacey on Presence and Persistence
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Description
How do we show up and care well for others when life gets messy—especially when trauma is part of the journey?
This honest conversation features Tim Smith, CareImpact’s lead trauma care trainer, as he sits down with Stacy, a quietly courageous mom and educational assistant in Winnipeg. Stacey opens up about her journey into understanding trauma, both through personal experience and her challenging work in Winnipeg’s inner city. She discusses the ongoing, non-linear process of learning trauma care, the importance of presence and patience, and how showing up for others—and ourselves—can be transformative. This exchange is a heartfelt reminder that becoming trauma-informed is not about mastering a checklist, but about embracing continual learning, community, and compassion on the long road toward healing and care.
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Transcript
Welcome to a special edition of Journey with Care, part of our summer Speedo
Speaker:series. These are quick, honest conversations designed for long
Speaker:walks, slow mornings, or stolen moments of peace in the middle of a
Speaker:busy season. Today's episode takes a slight detour from our
Speaker:usual format. I'm handing the mic over to Tim. He's our lead trauma
Speaker:care trainer at Care Impact. But more than that, Tim brings deep
Speaker:compassion, lived experience, and a gift for creating space for
Speaker:real conversation. Tim sits down with someone he knows not just as
Speaker:a colleague, but as a fellow traveler on the road to learning how to care
Speaker:well in the midst of real life messiness. Her name is
Speaker:Stacy. She's a mom, an educational assistant, and a
Speaker:quietly courageous presence here in the Winnipeg community.
Speaker:Without giving away too much, I'll just say this, Stacy's story is
Speaker:not about having all the answers, it's about showing up anyway.
Speaker:Let's listen in.
Speaker:Stacy, it's so great to have you on the podcast with us this morning. And
Speaker:I have the privilege of knowing you and a little bit about your life because
Speaker:we work in team together, but we do want our listeners to get to know
Speaker:you a tiny bit. So first, would you just tell us what gave you a
Speaker:spark of joy this weekend? This weekend? Oh, I had a
Speaker:very spontaneous organic invitation. My my family,
Speaker:they were just last minute invited over to some dear friends of ours, to
Speaker:their house. And we just brought some subway over, and we just hung out in
Speaker:their backyard. And our dogs played together, and the kids all hung out. And it
Speaker:was just really beautiful. It was the best way to end the weekend. So that
Speaker:definitely sparked joy for me this weekend. So good. And this time of
Speaker:year, we're in spring right now. Our listeners are probably already in
Speaker:summer when they're hearing this. But, would you give our listeners also
Speaker:just a a little snapshot of who you are, a little bit about yourself,
Speaker:where you live, things you love to do, and what your day to day life
Speaker:looks like. Sure. Yes. Well, I am wife and
Speaker:mom of two teenagers. I live in Winnipeg,
Speaker:Manitoba, Canada. I'm originally from Alberta, and my
Speaker:family moved out here when my son was just six weeks old. So I've now
Speaker:been here for fifteen years, and I love Winnipeg. It has definitely
Speaker:become home for me. I work as a, educational
Speaker:assistant in the inner city of Winnipeg, specifically
Speaker:with a student with disabilities. And so, yes, just the nature
Speaker:of the other students that I work with, it's a very high needs area of
Speaker:Winnipeg. And so it's it's a very rewarding place to be in.
Speaker:I I really enjoy it. Beautiful. Lots of challenge, lots of reward is, I
Speaker:guess, how it goes, isn't it? Yes. Absolutely. Beautiful. Can you share a
Speaker:little bit about your journey in understanding trauma? What first opened your eyes
Speaker:to to learning more? I think it was a a marriage
Speaker:of trying to piece together my own
Speaker:history and people that I've loved along the way that I've
Speaker:known about their stories and the trauma they've walked through and how it's
Speaker:impacted them. And of course, when you're in a relationship
Speaker:with people, friendships with people who have trauma, you're affected
Speaker:too. That's that's kinda just the reality. And it was also
Speaker:maybe the more pressing need was when I began working in the
Speaker:job that I am in the location that I am. I very quickly
Speaker:realized that a lot of the behavioral issues that were coming up,
Speaker:a lot of the challenges, I didn't really know
Speaker:much about trauma, but I just kinda had a gut feeling. You know, this sort
Speaker:of feels like it's more than just kids choosing to be
Speaker:bad. Right? And that's sometimes the lens that, it's easy to
Speaker:look through maybe, if you don't understand how complex
Speaker:trauma can be. And so as I as I started to
Speaker:realize the reality and and the fact that my job,
Speaker:I I work very one on one with these kids in particular.
Speaker:I realized I needed to learn more and and just become more educated
Speaker:just for myself personally, but also for my
Speaker:daily interactions with these kids that I work with. So
Speaker:several people in my life had just kind of casually mentioned
Speaker:Care Impact along the way. And I hadn't really thought too much about it in
Speaker:those moments. But then I was just searching one
Speaker:day, Googling, you know, just different training opportunities.
Speaker:And Care Impact came up and I remembered, you know,
Speaker:some conversations I'd had in the past. The light bulb went on, and I
Speaker:realized, oh, they offer this trauma care training. I think that actually sounds
Speaker:like exactly what I need. And so that's how I ended up
Speaker:discovering Care Impact's trauma care training. And, yeah,
Speaker:it was kind of word-of-mouth, but very indirectly, I
Speaker:guess. I love how you describe that. A marriage kind of of recognizing
Speaker:what you're carrying yourself and then also what so many people in your life are
Speaker:carrying, not just in your workplace, although certainly there, but also just in your
Speaker:friends and connections. And there's a lot of trauma, isn't there? And
Speaker:so you took some training, and then you came back around and took some more
Speaker:training. And now you're on the training team, and you've recently just gone through our
Speaker:master class. As you think about that learning journey that
Speaker:you've been on, through Care Impact, and beyond,
Speaker:has there been a moment where something you've learned or realized help you approach
Speaker:a situation or relationship differently? Yes.
Speaker:A %. There have been many
Speaker:opportunities to put what I've been learning into practice,
Speaker:whether as a parent. I have teenagers, and and it's a
Speaker:process of relearning what parenting looks like in this
Speaker:season. Learning to put active listening
Speaker:into practice, helping coregulate
Speaker:the kids that I'm with, whether at home or at
Speaker:school, has been, I think, one of the greatest tools actually is just
Speaker:learning how much my presence makes a
Speaker:difference for them and helps them to regulate their own emotions.
Speaker:I used to have a problem. I probably still
Speaker:do trying to fix things very quickly so that we could just stop those
Speaker:big emotions from happening because they made me very uncomfortable, and I had a hard
Speaker:time with my own big emotions. And so it was a struggle as
Speaker:a parent for sure. And learning that letting those
Speaker:emotions come out and actually just sitting and being present with
Speaker:that person while they feel those emotions, helping
Speaker:them articulate them and just not leaving their side,
Speaker:but just allowing them to go through the process of of,
Speaker:you know, just processing, and helping them
Speaker:get to the other side. That's been, I think, probably one of the biggest
Speaker:tools that I found so effective. Just
Speaker:being present, coregulation, you know, connecting
Speaker:before I correct them is huge. It's it's just been
Speaker:a very life changing, approach to being with other
Speaker:people in general, but certainly as a parent and certainly as a
Speaker:NEA. I love that, Stacy. Thank you. The power of presence
Speaker:and, as you said at the beginning, being present to yourself,
Speaker:and what's going on inside you so that you can be present and let
Speaker:those emotions come out. That's one of the hardest things for me too. I know.
Speaker:Well, if someone, Stacy, is like was like you
Speaker:were, some years ago, beginning to explore this idea of trauma and
Speaker:trauma care, what encouragement would you offer them? What are some words that you might
Speaker:be able to give? I would say that
Speaker:it's not a course you can take
Speaker:and check off a box and say that you now know about trauma.
Speaker:I would say that even though I've taken the trauma care master
Speaker:course twice now, I was actually surprised that
Speaker:it actually impacted me just as much the second time as it did the
Speaker:first time. And that I still had things that I needed to sort
Speaker:through and and there was still things happening in
Speaker:around me that required me to spend the
Speaker:time thinking about trauma and how it affected other
Speaker:people. And I don't know, Tim, it's just not something that you can
Speaker:learn in a textbook and say that you know it. You know, it it's
Speaker:something that you might actually have to review many, many times
Speaker:and and just keep it fresh in your head, you know. And that's what
Speaker:I really love about being part of Care Impact is that it keeps it
Speaker:fresh in my head. I hear what different team
Speaker:members and trainers say and we will talk
Speaker:about experiences, you know, that come from different places,
Speaker:whether people are in foster care, like dealing with the
Speaker:foster care system or from teaching backgrounds or
Speaker:parenting. And I guess trauma care is maybe just
Speaker:an ongoing conversation that needs to happen and an
Speaker:ongoing posture of continually learning. I feel like I'm
Speaker:gonna probably have to take the trauma care master class, like, maybe 10
Speaker:times before it really sinks in. I might, you know, I might just
Speaker:have to keep showing up because I feel truly that every time I do show
Speaker:up, I'm given something new to learn and to put into
Speaker:practice. And it's just it takes a lot of time
Speaker:to, you know, to relearn how to approach
Speaker:difficult situations with myself and with others, and
Speaker:just being patient in that process. That's what I would say is just be
Speaker:patient and don't feel the pressure to have it be
Speaker:an expert at it right away. It's just gonna take a lot of time. Thank
Speaker:you for that encouragement, Stacy. Patience for the long game
Speaker:because this is a long game, and don't do it alone is what I hear
Speaker:from you. Mhmm. Get that equipping and be in that community that can continually
Speaker:equip you because we're all in the in the journey anyways,
Speaker:carrying hard things or carrying others who are carrying hard things. And Yeah. The
Speaker:better we can come alongside each other and the more cooking we can have, the
Speaker:better. Isn't it? Beautiful. Thank you, Stacy. It's just such a delight to have
Speaker:you, for this little moment on our podcast. And bless you. I know in
Speaker:this moment, you're heading back to work. And so, yeah, may
Speaker:you be equipped with the patience and grace and everything you need, and,
Speaker:have a wonderful rest of your day. Thank you for coming on the podcast. Wonderful.
Speaker:Thank you so much for having me. It truly is a pleasure to talk about
Speaker:this. I really do appreciate the opportunity. Thank you, Tim.
Speaker:Thank you for joining us on Journey with Care. To get more information on
Speaker:weekly episodes, upcoming opportunities, or to connect with our
Speaker:community, visit journeywithcare.ca, or find Care Impact
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